This blog was provided by one of our wonderful members, Meggin Rutherford.
Your Best Divorce? Is there such a thing? You’re probably already giving me a funny look. That phrase seems to be an oxymoron if there ever was one. But with some thought and planning you really can have a successful divorce that is best for you and your family.
The best divorce is NOT one that ruins your relationship, drains your bank account, and destroys your mental health.
The best divorce is one where the following have been met (as much as possible) for all the members of the family:
Reduce emotional damage
Reduce financial damage (invest wisely in your dissolution)
Maintain a parenting relationship
Meet your goals
We hope that you will find our FREE E-BOOK on Divorce Planning helpful as you start down this journey.
This may seem like a lot, but it can be done with planning and intention. Here are the 4 steps you can take to have the smoothest divorce possible.
1. Identify Your Goals
You need to have an end point in mind when you start. In order to do that,
you should have financial goals, emotional goals, and personal goals set before you begin.
These need to be immediate, mid-term, and long term. You may not be able to meet all of
these goals, but knowing what is important before you begin will help you immensely when you
are making decisions.
2. Find the Right Method
How you get a divorce is almost the most important decision you can
make. If you are able to make decisions outside of court, then you should seriously consider
Collaborative Divorce. If you need more deadlines and guidance, then we can help you reach
a resolution within the traditional court framework.
3. Find the Right Attorney
Your attorney will be guiding you through every step of the process.
You will have to talk about the hardest decisions in your life with your attorney. You need to
feel comfortable and confident with them. They should share your goals and have creative
ideas to help you get there. But they also need to be realistic and guide you when reality and
what you want don’t add up.
4. Find the Right Therapist
You are going to need help emotionally getting through the process.
While we have a lot of experience as armchair therapists, and we could even play one on TV, it is
much cheaper and better for you to find a therapist who you trust to help guide you. Your
children will also need a therapist to help. You may also consider a Divorce Coach.
We hope that this has helped you see a road forward. We offer a free 15-minute initial consultation
with an attorney about how we can help you. EMAIL or call us to schedule your meeting.